1) Safe communication.
The first step to security in relationship is to build healthy and safe communication. Both you and your partner must feel safe to tell each other what you feel and think in your relationship. You must also be able to listen to, understand and affirm what your partner is feeling and vice-versa. This means that you and your partner must learn how to identify, label and communicate your feelings effectively across to each other.
2) Refrain from Pre-Judgment
In the course of your relationship, there will be times when you do not understand your partner, why he/she acted the way they did and/or why he/she feels a certain way that you cannot comprehend. It is important that you stay calm as such feeling is completely normal in a relationship. However when such things happen, you must refrain yourself from pre-judging the event by calling your partner crazy…