I have posted surveys and challenges on this blog before. Once I surveyed people to ask what their definition was of love. It received a lot of response and feedback. People want to love and be loved.
Today, I post a survey for the men: Husbands, who is your wife? Why do you love her? Describe her to the world.
I offer you the opportunity to publicly proclaim your love for her. Tell us your observations and experiences of her gifts, strengths, and beauty. Tell us about her heart.
I stand at the hospital with couples who have been married many years. I always ask the husband to tell me their love story, or I ask, “Why her?” These elderly men always, not often, ALWAYS respond with stories of enduring and amazing love. They don’t stop with why they chose her or fell in love, but continue with the gift she has been throughout their relationship.
So, is this because I’m mostly talking to men in the hospital in a dying generation that honored and respected their wives? Is loving women the way Christ loved the church (Ephesians 5:22-33) going to die with this generation? I hope this survey proves this idea to be incorrect.
Women love to know their husbands speak respectfully and complimentary of them to their faces and also to others. I can promise you most women I know give all they have to loving a man and being a good wife. I know I do. They want to know the husband knows and appreciates this. Most women don’t want extravagant gifts or unreasonable things. They want to be appreciated for all they give and for their feelings to be validated. Your opinion of us does matter…so very much.
We don’t want the Prince Charming who wears tights and tiptoes through the tulips. We want the Knight in Shining Armor Prince Charming who protects our honor, sees our beauty within, and declares his love. Strong, brave, and true. We want to know, that you know our hearts of love for you.
At 48 years old, I finally have this kind of man that I have witnessed at the bedside of hospitals for many years now. I believed he existed but never knew he would love me. I am blessed beyond measure and very thankful. I don’t ask anything of him, and certainly demand nothing. He freely loves me and prays continually for the Father’s heart. Such humility and Christ-like behavior he demonstrates. Not because I am dominating him. Doesn’t work that way. Because he sees how very much I love him and all I do. He knows I also pray continually to love him the way Christ loves me…sacrificially. We each take personal responsibility in imitating Christ and being an example of loving marriage to one another and others.
Noah from the Notebook. If you have seen the movie then you know. It isn’t Noah’s outward appearance that draw women to that fictional character and so many women declare that movie their favorite. It’s because Noah verbalized his appreciation and love for Allie. He filled her love bank with deposits of affirmation rather than making withdrawals of negativity. He loved her, even though she was not perfect. No one is perfect. That enduring love is more important to women than all the diamonds in the world.
I know a man who has written a love note for his wife every single day of their marriage. He loves her like Christ loves the church.
Could you write your wife a love note daily? Are you the man who will tell a beautiful love story about your wife at the bedside in the hospital and that love was true?
So, guys…here is your opportunity. Tell us why you love your wife. I promise she will love you all the more for it.