It is simple.
“You can sacrifice and not love. But you cannot love and not sacrifice.”
― Kris Vallotton
“The most sublime act is to set another before you.”
― William Blake
“Above all the grace and the gifts that Christ gives to his beloved is that of overcoming self.”
Sometimes we want the fairy tale so badly that we name things Love, which perhaps are only Like or Hope For Love. If you are the only one sacrificing, seeking mutual understanding, trying, listening, giving, growing…truly loving, then your well will run dry sooner than later. You can only empty yourself so many times without being filled. It’s not sustainable.
You also can’t yo-yo in a relationship. You set a goal, communicate that goal, and give your all to it. It’s like pulling off a band-aid or piece of tape and re-sticking it. Eventually it just won’t stick any longer. You can’t pull it off and put if back over and over. Won’t work. That’s wishy washy sacrifice which isn’t real. It is some kind of show or game. Confusion. God is not the author of confusion. God is the author of peace. If you are in a relationship blessed by God it will have an overriding sense of peace. Selfishness, confusion, lack of communication, instability – those are signs that a relationship is not healthy.
Mutually sacrificial love is worth waiting for. I’m never going to stop believing.
Love others like Christ. Why would anyone want any other way? What is so very ironic is that, if you love like Christ, sacrificially, then you receive the greatest blessing in return. Perhaps not from the person you are giving to, but I believe God will give that love back to you. If you don’t love sacrificially then you aren’t going to get the blessing of giving love or receiving it. Lose lose. If you are loving sacrificially then at least you can always say you tried, even if another human doesn’t reciprocate. It’s not about what you are receiving. It is about what you are giving. That’s being a Christian. Bottom line. Should apply to all relationships and especially romantic love. For some reason our society has this idea that romantic relationships are the least important. How wrong. It is the only relationship God designed for two people to become one.
Parents, the greatest gifts you can give your children are these: show your children an example of allowing Gods love, loving God, and the example of loving your spouse sacrificially, respectfully, and wholly. To prepare them for relationships is your greatest gift to them.
2)And walk in love, as Christ loved us and gave himself up for us, a fragrant offering and sacrifice to God.Submitting to one another out of reverence for Christ.
kim crawford 8.24.14
Live life. Love Life. Love God. Love another.