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June Bride Wedding Day

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Double Oak Community Church

I love my time with the kids at Double Oak. When you get a chance ask a child what God has done for them or ask them their prayer requests. Such a blessing to hear from their hearts.

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MOYO Yoga Festival

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Join me at the MOYO Festival for Laughter Yoga! Check out my FB: Live with Zeal Laughter Yoga with Kim

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Please vote for me!

Please vote for me! In the category Favorite Parent/Child Class type in: Kimimi the Clown Laughter Yoga and Storytime. You can vote more than once!! Deadline to vote is April 25th. Thank you!!!

http://birminghamparent.com/directory/family-favorites-survey/

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Standing in the Tension

As a little girl one of my favorite things to do was to make potholders on a little loom. I loved pulling the small loops of many colors tightly across, and the challenge to get them to stay in that place of tension. The beauty was created as I wove other loops over, under, and across. The loose threads and tense threads all woven together was a creation with meaning and purpose.

As an adult, my grandmother fell down the stairs and as a result had brain damage. She was unable to continue with the activities she loved and very bored. I remembered the little loom and gave her one. She made hundreds of potholders over the course of the next few years. Her little crooked fingers could barely stretch those loops across, but she knew beauty would come in her little creation, and it would have purpose. She stayed in the tension and worked through it to reach her goal.

Making those potholders gave Sweet Granny and I each a purpose at a point in life when we needed it. This little craft project enabled each of us to cope during chapters of tension in our life stories. You never know how life will change, or what someone may need during those changes.

As a chaplain, I stand in the tension with others. The truth is that everyone has the opportunity to serve someone in the time of need as chaplains do. I think of those little looms as symbols for me of what it is to be supportive of someone. The threads stretched across and held in tension are the warp threads. The woven pieces are the weft threads. Something happens in life that causes tension, whether it be sickness, change of condition, death, grief, or many other things. The warp threads represent those difficult experiences. The weft threads represent the emotions, copings skills, beliefs, etc. one draws upon to cope with a situation. As a support person, you are the loom, standing with others, as they hold those warp threads of tension. Support happens when you create a safe place for them to pull out those weft threads of emotion, beliefs, and coping. As they grieve. As they celebrate. All at the same time. All so confusing and consuming. You don’t weave the weft threads for them (try to fix it or answer the questions for them). You normalize and validate their emotion, and through it all they find some way of weaving it all together creating an individual meaning…another chapter in their story, which they will carry with them forever.

How may you serve someone in tension or grief?

Tips on What Not to Say:

It happened for the best.

Calm down. (Let them express how they feel.)

Don’t cry.

Don’t worry, you can have another baby…you have other children…

I know how you feel.

What are you going to do?

God needed another angel.

You have to pick yourself up by your bootstraps, dust yourself off, and move on.

Just get over it.

Be strong.

Shhhh…there there.

Tips on Things to Say:

I’m so sorry.

It’s okay to cry.

I’m listening if you need to talk about it.

What may I do to help?

May I contact you later to see how you are doing?

Tell me more…

Why do you need to be ‘strong’ right now? It’s okay to be whatever you need to be with me.

I can’t imagine how this must feel.

I would be angry (sad) too. Seems normal to feel this way.

Of course you feel this way.

How may I pray for you?

There are no words.

Some things we certainly cannot understand.

I care.

I love you.

I’m here.

I have an open heart and time to listen.

Sometimes we know something with our heads, and feel something different with our hearts and the two will not agree. This is one of those times.

Say nothing at all. Just be with them.

Chaplain Kim Crawford

4.4.18

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It is Well With My Soul?

It is so difficult to know what to do during a time of sorrow.

Devastating news. Shock and dismay.

I am reminded of how David, in the Bible, never hid his pain and mourning. He cried out to God. God heard his cries. God said David was a man after His own heart. Was David perfect? No, far from it, but he leaned on God during difficult times, rejoiced in God’s blessings, believed in His steadfast love, and realized the mercy of our Lord.

He expressed his feelings, yet held on to his faith.

Psalm 40:1-3
“I waited patiently for the Lord; He inclined to me and heard my cry. He drew me up from the pit of destruction, out of the miry bog, and set my feet upon a rock, making my steps secure. He put a new song in my mouth, a song of praise to our God.”

Psalm 18:30
“This God – His way is perfect.”
We say we will praise during this storm. This reminds me of an old hymn It is Well with My Soul. By Horatio Spafford who praised God in his many storms.  He lived 2 Corinthians 4:1 “do not lose heart” and 2 Corinthians 3:5 “Not that we are sufficient in ourselves to claim anything as coming from us, but our sufficiency is from God.”  It Is Well with My Soul is a very influential hymn penned by hymnist Horatio Spafford and composed by Philip Bliss.

This hymn was written after several traumatic events in Spafford’s life. The first was the death of his only son in 1871, shortly followed by the great Chicago Fire which ruined him financially (he had been a successful lawyer). Then in 1873, he had planned to travel to Europe with his family on the S.S. Ville du Havre, but sent the family ahead while he was delayed on business concerning zoning problems following the Great Chicago Fire. While crossing the Atlantic, the ship sank rapidly after a collision with a sailing ship, the Loch Earn, and all four of Spafford’s daughters died. His wife Anna survived and sent him the famous telegram, “Saved alone.” Shortly afterwards, as Spafford traveled to meet his grieving wife, he was inspired to write the words of It Is Well With My Soul as his ship passed near where his daughters had died.

The Spaffords later had three more children, one of whom (a son) died in infancy. In 1881 the Spaffords, including baby Bertha and newborn Grace, set sail for Palestine. The Spaffords moved to Jerusalem and helped found a group called the American Colony; its mission was to serve the poor. The colony later became the subject of the Nobel prize winning Jerusalem, by Swedish novelist Selma Lagerlöf. (wikipedia.org)

It Is Well With My Soul

When peace like a river, attendeth my way,
When sorrows like sea billows roll;
Whatever my lot, Thou hast taught me to say,
It is well, it is well, with my soul.

Refrain:
It is well, with my soul,
It is well, with my soul,
It is well, it is well, with my soul.

Though Satan should buffet, though trials should come,
Let this blest assurance control,
That Christ has regarded my helpless estate,
And hath shed His own blood for my soul.

My sin, oh, the bliss of this glorious thought!
My sin, not in part but the whole,
Is nailed to the cross, and I bear it no more,
Praise the Lord, praise the Lord, O my soul!

And Lord, haste the day when my faith shall be sight,
The clouds be rolled back as a scroll;
The trump shall resound, and the Lord shall descend,
Even so, it is well with my soul.

-Horatio Spafford

May we all find peace that passes understanding in the midst of the storms.

Chaplain Kim Crawford

4.4.18

 

 

 

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Validating Feelings

The key to deeper intimacy is connecting with someone on a level of safe space for them to feel whatever they need to and be able to express that to you. Below is one of the best articles I’ve read on this…

www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/pieces-mind/201204/understanding-validation-way-communicate-acceptance