A good friend once told me “There is never a reason for anyone to be rude to you, Kim.” Wow, if only he would tell that to the rude people. I say Amen!

Rudeness is disrespectful and demeaning.

“Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude.” 1 Cor 13:4

Someone said the other day regarding opening doors for women: “A great woman may be capable of doing a certain thing for sure, but a great man will not let her.” Many accomplished, intelligent, talented women still love a gentleman who opens doors, walks them to the door, holds their hand when stepping off something, and never lets them lift heavy objects. It is respectful and thoughtful.

IT IS RUDE TO ALLOW A DOOR TO SLAM IN ANYONE’S FACE AND MEN, REALLY, DON’T WALK IN FRONT AND ALLOW A DOOR TO SLAM IN A WOMAN’S FACE.

Ladies, don’t belittle your man in front of others or talk to him like he is your child.

Neither gender should ever make fun of, or argue with the other, in front of people. It’s beyond rude. It’s hurtful and abusive. Being rude can actually be a control tactic. Control is abusive.

Rudeness can be about what you say, and what you don’t say also. Shutting someone out, or ghosting them, is also rude and controlling. Jesus said come unto me. He wasn’t rude, didn’t tease in a cruel way, didn’t belittle, and didn’t refuse to speak. He invited others to come to him for love and comfort.

Kendricks from “The Love Dare” states, “When a man is driven by love, he intentionally behaves in a way that’s more pleasant for his wife to be around. If a woman desires to love her husband, she purposefully avoids things that frustrate him or cause him discomfort. The bottom line is genuine love minds its manners. Good manners express to your wife or husband, ‘I value you enough to exercise self-control around you. I want to be a person who’s a pleasure to be with. The more respectful and honorable your behavior, the more attractive and romantically appealing you become to your spouse.”

“There are two reasons why people are rude: ignorance and self-centerdness.”

Kendricks Three Guiding Rules for Etiquette in Relationships:

1.The Golden Rule – treat them the way you want to be treated. Luke 6:31

2.No double standards – Be as considerate to your spouse as you are to coworkers, your boss, your minister, etc. (or more)

3.Honor Requests – Think about what your spouse has asked you to do or not do. If you don’t know…ask.

Challenge: What has your spouse said would make them feel loved? Do that. What has your spouse said irritates or hurts them? Don’t do that.

Just Be Nice…Why wouldn’t you?

Kim Crawford

2.5.18 Revised

07.04.14